Being Human

From past few days I have been reading books and articles of Karma yoga. As a person I am very much inclined towards spirituality. Every article which I read and went through mainly focused on human behavior ;Emphasizing more over how important it is to do well, behave good ,to be selfless and how there should be unconditional love.

Below is amazing article by Swami Vivekananda about Karma Yoga-

Here are two Sanskrit words. The one is Pravritti, which means revolving towards, and the other is Nivritti, which means revolving away. The “revolving towards” is what we call the world, the “I and mine”; it includes all those things which are always enriching that “me” by wealth and money and power, and name and fame, and which are of a grasping nature, always tending to accumulate everything in one centre, that centre being “myself”. That is the Pravritti, the natural tendency of every human being; taking everything from everywhere and heaping it around one centre, that centre being man’s own sweet self. When this tendency begins to break, when it is Nivritti or “going away from,” then begin morality and religion. Both Pravritti and Nivritti are of the nature of work: the former is evil work, and the latter is good work. This Nivritti is the fundamental basis of all morality and all religion, and the very perfection of it is entire self-abnegation, readiness to sacrifice mind and body and everything for another being. When a man has reached that state, he has attained to the perfection of Karma-Yoga.

But the very thing that always confuses me is that if a person wants to follow nivritti , where in u have to do good work for other beings, you have to be calm, you have to very soft-spoken. But why is that people always take you for granted for being so good, being very helpful. The below questions hovers across my mind.

  • Am I taken for granted?
  • Why I am always dominated for being so soft spoken?

The world has become so cruel and selfish that even though we are trying to follow the steps of karma yoga you never know how you are being fooled by others. The number of dishonest people are rising . Currently we are in such a phase where one needs to be shrewd otherwise people may take undue advantage of you.

So basically here also one needs to stay balanced. You should have the blend of both. One needs to take behavior decisions according to the situations that come forward.

What is Real Happiness??

Happiness….

For Some People it is Wealth ..

For Some it is Love ..

For Some Fame ..

For Some Rank & Position ..

To achieve these people just run after it  ..

Some take the right path and some wrong …Running after this can only destroy good virtues of the person .

When you get attached to a person you just get addicted to the materialistic things..

And sometimes this intoxicates human mind if not balanced properly …

Fame, Rank , Position are all temporary happiness for a person…People have become so competitive in their life that they just run after this for temporary happiness..

Then what is real happiness??

Or it just remains a mirage …

Taking inspiration from SAM..

I was watching this philosophical video ” Secret of Happiness” by Sam Berns who was diagnosed with Progeria (very rare disease of fast ageing ) at the age of 2 . These people are very much prone to heart diseases as their physical body gets old .At the age of 13 their body starts living the life of 103 approx. The thought of going through such life can make anyone depressive.

Today if you see young people are not even able to handle their stress level and so the suicidal rates has gone up tremendously. Talking about Sam , he totally took this up in a very positive way. His zest of doing something progressive in such a young age is just inspiring , especially knowing that death is going to knock his door any time..any day. He just lived and enjoyed every moment of his life and that’s why I admire him. He was just 17 years old when he died.

What inspired me about Sam ?

  • The way he enjoyed each moment of life.
  • Positive thinking about he being blessed with a happier life .
  • The way he focused on the activities which he CAN do and not thinking about the things which he can’t do .
  • He always tried to surround himself with people who he want to be with. People who have high qualities in them .

I  really feel if a person have to grow in his life he should go through bad phase in life to become strong and brave. Whether it may be failure, illness, or whatever you learn from it. All these situations are created by God to make one strong , to prepare you for the betterment of future. The earlier you go through a bad phase ,the more easily  you climb the ladder of success. Everyone should know how to face it , how to tackle it and just not give up in the mid way and end your own life.

Why it is important to step out of your Comfort Zone..

People really feel good about themselves when they start with their first job with a decent salary. 80% of the people just enjoy with what they have and 20% of them think of assimilating knowledge as much as they can within short span of time and switching to another company.Conically, I intended to be the part of that 20% and i did started pretty well but i never realized when i became the part of that 80%.

In 2013 I got placed in an MNC as a Financial Analyst. As the market was not doing well i started it with very low base salary so initially my focus was to learn and look for another job with better growth prospects and with better salary. Initially i did had to face hurdles but later I was doing well in that job ,Got promoted and hence got comfortable with the same routine. The job was getting little stressful later on which was ultimately hampering my health . After 3 years i realized that now i am not learning new in my workplace and somewhere i am loosing out my creativity.

When people get attached to certain things and get comfortable with the things around , they will not think for change but when those things goes against them that time they realize the need for change .

That pinch in life is very important in everyone’s life. I was getting attached with the people and the the way it was working which made me difficult to move out of the place .I have finally changed my job and have accepted a new role in Banking Finance which completely differs from the previous one. And the best part of the new role is finally i was able to balance my professional and personal life. I started giving time to myself and exploring ME in me. I learned many new things after accepting new change in life.

As a person i have always liked to learn new things in my life.Learning something new out of your comfort zone is what is very important.The more you push yourselves to do something different the better you will be capable of dealing with difficult situations in life. So now when i look at myself i dint regret about things in my life. Of course i have not achieved anything great in life but i just feel happy for not loosing hopes and not stopping . At least realizing things and having the determination to get back on track  is all you need.

Just go with the flow ..

Every girl has a dream of having a life partner like her father who cares, adores and is protective about her .My dreams are no different from others …

I always wanted one with whom our thoughts and relationship will progress. For me, marriage is all about Love, Care and sacrifice.

It takes time for some people to understand what they are exactly looking for. I was one of them and I gradually started to understand this when I met new people and came to know their story . It is very interesting to know others opinion regarding life, marriage , relations and love ..and may be this how either we connect with these people or we don’t ..and so we have to face this phase of acceptance or rejection…but rejection helps u a lot to improve on urself if u are taking it positively. Rejection does not mean you are a bad person or you are not perfect. It just means things are not perfect for both of you.

So when u face rejections don’t be upset as all these things have been written by God.. If something is meant to happen it will and if something is not then it will not …it’s up to us how we are taking things …

I would rather say just flow with the God’s decision …just trust him…and belive in ur self 🙂